Welcome to This Tidy Haven

ADHD-friendly strategies for a calmer, clutter-free home

Hi, I’m Amanda, and I have a feeling we might understand each other.

Maybe you’re reading this while sitting in a room that makes your chest feel tight. Maybe you’ve tried every organizing hack on Pinterest and still can’t figure out why nothing sticks. Or maybe you’re like I was, staring at another “foolproof” cleaning routine wondering why you feel like you’re failing at something everyone else makes look effortless.

If you’re nodding along right now, breathe. You’ve found someone who gets it.

The Truth About Living with ADHD

I have ADHD too, and for the longest time, I carried this heavy shame about my home. I’d look at other people’s spaces and their consistent routines, their naturally tidy habits, and think there was something fundamentally wrong with me.

Why couldn’t I just keep up? Why did every system work for exactly three days before falling apart? Why did I feel like I was constantly swimming upstream just to maintain basic order?

Here’s what I finally learned: those systems weren’t failing because I was broken. They were failing because they weren’t designed for brains like ours.

When Everything Changed

That realization changed everything for me. Instead of forcing myself into boxes that didn’t fit, I started paying attention to what actually worked for my brain. What if I stopped fighting my ADHD and started designing around it?

Slowly, I began creating routines that felt natural instead of forced. Systems that bent with my energy instead of demanding perfection. Approaches that worked with my scattered focus rather than against it.

And you know what? Things started clicking. My mornings became manageable. My space started feeling like a sanctuary instead of a source of stress. I could finally breathe in my own home.

That’s when This Tidy Haven was born. Not from having it all figured out, but from finally finding what worked.

What You’ll Actually Find Here

This isn’t another blog telling you to wake up at 5 AM and color-code your spice rack. This is real talk for real ADHD life:

Routines that actually stick because they’re built around how your brain works, not how it “should” work.

Decluttering without the shame spiral where we’re talking progress, not perfection, and definitely no guilt about what you choose to keep.

Organizing methods that make sense with flexible systems that work even when your motivation crashes or your focus scatters.

Mindset shifts that change everything because sometimes the most powerful tool is simply knowing you’re not alone in this struggle.

This isn’t about achieving some impossible standard of tidiness. It’s about creating a space that supports you, holds you, and helps you feel more at peace, even on the hard days.

My Real Mission (And Why You Matter)

Here’s what I’m really trying to do: I want to help women with ADHD stop carrying shame about their homes and start feeling genuinely empowered in their spaces.

Because here’s the truth. You don’t need to become someone else to have a home that works for you. You don’t need to develop some magical tidiness gene or transform into a productivity machine.

You just need tools that work with your beautiful, complex, creative brain instead of against it.

Let’s Do This Together

So here’s what I want you to do: take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and be gentle with yourself in the process. Try what feels right when you have the energy. Rest when you need to. And remember that every small step counts.

You’re not broken. You’re not behind. You’re not failing at something you should naturally know how to do.

You’re just human, with a brain that works differently, and that’s not a flaw to fix. It’s a reality to work with.

Let’s build something beautiful together, one small, sustainable step at a time.

With so much heart,
Amanda
Founder of This Tidy Haven

P.S. Whatever brought you here today, I’m genuinely glad you’re here. You deserve a home that feels like peace, not chaos. Let’s make that happen.